Как кто смотрит на ситуацию если significant other уезжает на отдых с другом противоположного пола?

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trudno skazat'.. Zavisit ot milliona faktorov. Davai detali v studiyu :) I fotki :) "Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe." -H. G. Wells, Outline of History (1920)

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"The trouble with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money" -Margaret Thatcher

Вопрос был чисто гипотетический.

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chestno govorya, nikak!!!........bystro naydetsya eshe odin drug protivopolojnogo pola, if you know what i mean ya schitau, chto vse poezdki na otdyx s druzyami protivopolojnogo pola doljny zakonchitsya ones you're married.

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Originally posted by Minime21: vse poezdki na otdyx s druzyami protivopolojnogo pola doljny zakonchitsya ones you're married.

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Depressivno.... "Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe." -H. G. Wells, Outline of History (1920)

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"The trouble with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money" -Margaret Thatcher

Ну, Егор, не забывай, это женский взгляд, они смотрят на мужчин немного по другому чем мы на них. Не знаю правомерно ли.

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Originally posted by Minime21: vse poezdki na otdyx s druzyami protivopolojnogo pola doljny zakonchitsya ones you're married.

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Depressivno.... "Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe." -H. G. Wells, Outline of History (1920)

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Egor, kogda zhenishsya i tvoya budushaya zhena zayavit tebe , chto ona xochet poexat' v otpusk, v kotoriy ne ty vkluchen, a eye drug, posmotrim, chto ty na eto zkajesh( esli konechno je etot drug gay, to eto drugoe delo).....mne chto-to trudno veritsya, chto normal'niy, uvazhaushiy sebya mujchina, u kotorogo xot' na gramm razvito chuvstvo dostoinstva i sobstvennosti v otnoshenii svoey suprugi, skajet: "Konechno, Dorogaya!".....esli by tak deystvitel'no bylo, to polovina chelovechestva by tak delalo, i dumau bolshinstvo sostavlyalo by zhenshiny:P....i nichego "DEPRESSIVNOGO" tut net ya ne vkluchau suda otnosheniya, v kotorye vxodit takoe ponyatie i na chem sobstvenno oni postroeny, kak FREE LOVE......dlya menya eto ne otnosheniya, a tem bolee ne semeynye. Prosto kak u polnopravnogo chlena sem'i, mne kajetsya, doljen vozniknut' takoy voprosy kak: A zachem? A pochemu ne so mnoy? I s kakoy takoy radosti? P.S. 412, esli ty xotel uslyshat' TOL'KO muzhskie mneniya, to otochni v samom nachale

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Vot imenno poetomu ya i govoril - zavisit ot milliona faktorov. Esli s lyubovnikom, razumeetsya soglasen. No 412 etogo vrode ne namekal :) Hotya mozhet ya i neprav... No esli s "drugom protivopolozhnogo pola", delo v doverii. Malo-li pochemu - mozhet ya naprimer ne mogu ehat', mozhet nehochu, a mozhet eto voobshe s lud'mi kotorye menya ne interesuyut. A nepuskat' iz-za revnosti, znachit ne imeyu doveriya, a esli ne imeyu doveriya, eta "other" uzhe znachit daleko ne "significant". IMHO.. "Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe." -H. G. Wells, Outline of History (1920)

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"The trouble with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money" -Margaret Thatcher

tak nevajno, lubovnik li, drug li.......esli lubovnik, ty by ob etom ne uznal by tak prosto, ya tak dumau prosto skaji mne pojaluysta, budet li tebe priyaten tot fact(xotya vryatli ty mojesh seychas ob etom rassujdat' navernyaka), chto ne smotrya na to, chto ty ne mogesh poexat', tvoya jena vse-taki budet rassmatrivat' poezdku NA OTDYX (kak 412 skazal)s drugom protivopolojnogo pola? nevajno, chto i kak , prosto sam fakt? ya konechno ponimau s podrujkami i vse takoe, no s drugom-NET. mojet ya konechno slishkom staromodno dlya nekotoryx vosprinimau takogo roda veshi, no po-drugomu ya daje ne mogu ponyat', kakie je eto otnosheniya.....kajdiy ezdit kuda emu ugodno, s kem emu ugodno.....nu i che? ya schitau, chto doverie tut igraet ochen' malen'kuyu rol', tak kak esli zhena/muj zaxotyat izmenit', to dumau eto ne budet nastolko ochevidno.

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Originally posted by Minime21: P.S. 412, esli ty xotel uslyshat' TOL'KO muzhskie mneniya, to otochni v samom nachale

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Нет, нет, мне интересны обе стороны. Я просто напоминал Егору что мужские и женские взгляды на отношения полов отличаются в корне.

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Originally posted by 412: Как кто смотрит на ситуацию если significant other уезжает на отдых с другом противоположного пола?

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Смотря что за "significant other" и что за "друг" и по какой причине ты не едешь... Вариантов масса, но среднестатистически эта ситуация указывает на то, что "significant other" на тебя "пилюЁт"...

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my point exactly!

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Nu eto sovsem drugoi vopros. Pluet ili ne pluet, reshaet chelovek na kotorogo pluyut ili ne pluyut :) Delo v tom, chto ya voobshe schitayu, chto nenormal'no imet' absolyutno obshih druzei. Eto vedet k tomu, na chto lyudi zhalovalis' v teme o nashei degradacii v amerike. Esli s odnim chelovekom otpravlyaeshsya na cruise (k primeru), ya polnost'yu soglashus' s Minime :) "depressivno" otnosilos' k fraze quoted in that post :) "vse poezdki na otdyx s druzyami protivopolojnogo pola doljny zakonchitsya ones you're married", ostavilo menya v "depressivnom" sostayanii - vot i vsyo. Esli mne sozdayet takuyu zhizn' moya lyubimaya zhenshina - tak kto na kogo pluyet? :) "Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe." -H. G. Wells, Outline of History (1920)

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"The trouble with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money" -Margaret Thatcher

Nu ya mozhet i doverala bi muzhu, no ne doverala bi "drugu protivopolozhnogo pola"! ;) As simple as that! :) Slava Bogu moemu muzhu takoye v golovu ne pridet nikogda, ravno kak i mne, t.k. mi semya i esli uzh po kakim-to prichinam mi ne smozhem poexat vmeste, to mi poedem s duzyami odnogo pola! ;) PS ya v svoyo vremya ezdila na otdix s drugom, prixodilos govorit, chto mi brat i sestra, t.k. malo kto ponimal nashi otnosheniya, no oni vozmozhni i ya otlichno provela vremya i otdoxnula, prosto nado chetko razdelat druzbu (nastoyashuu) i chto-to esho...! PPS prosto daleko ne obe storoni odinakovo vosprinimaut otnosheniya, vi mozhete cheloveka schitat za druga i poexat s nim otdixat, a on budet postoyanno nadeyatsya na bOlshee! Obichno, zhenshina shichaet muzhchinu drugom, a muzhchina xochet inogo roda otnosheniy! ;) (no v moyom sluchaye eto bilo ne tak, slava Bogu)! ~Mrs.T.~

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The situation is ABSOLUTELY the same as the one with "friendship with benefits". It can last for SOME TIME only. Then it needs to be developed into somethign else or just ended. I guess such "otdyh" is gonna last for no longer than 2-3 days (as friends) then they either need to have sex already or they will become burdens to each other. Есть женщины, которые хороши до безобразия. А также во время безобразия и после безобразия.